Is he “the one”? Many women who are dating, most likely in a serious relationship, ask themselves that question.”The one” is a big term that should be used carefully because when you use it you are most likely referring to this person as the one you want to be with the rest of your life. This is the one who you would die for and go through any hardship with. The big concern that women have is knowing if he is “the one”.
Katelyn Goglia, a senior at Southeastern University and a newlywed, knew she had “the one” because, “he is the only person in the world who truly understands every aspect of my personality. We get each other, and it’s as simple as that!”
The big concern of women who are dating or soon to be dating is knowing if he is “the one”.
“The one” is different for everyone because we all have different likes and dislikes, but the question is he “the one” still there.
Some women know they have “the one” because they have grown up with together, but others meet in high school, college, or even later on in life.
For Goglia, she met her husband when she was in high school on a vacation with her family in Marco Island. She lived in Wisconsin and he lived in Connecticut, but the distance did not stop them. They dated for a year and a half and ended up at the same college and are now married.
For Tiffany Thenor on the other hand, an elementary school teacher in Lakeland, FL and newlywed, she found her husband in her last years of college. It wasn’t until after she graduated that she began dating her husband.
Thenor said, “[when] we started dating I knew almost immediately I would marry him. He was my first and only boyfriend.”
No matter if you know if he is the one early, like Thenor, or you date for a while, like Goglia, before you still need to understand each other. As you spend more time together you will understand that. If he is “the one” he will understand you. This is not just the only thing in determining if he is “the one” of course.
Some things that you should or may feel when finding “the one” are:
- Confidence (that he is here for you)
- Vision (for the future)
These are by no means the only things that you should or may be feeling, but these are the things that are common to these women as well as others.
The way that Thenor described her feelings was just that she knew. Having that “knowing” feeling is another way to know if he is “the one”. You are confident and have no second guesses because you know that this man was placed on this earth for you.
Sarah Cogswell, an elementary school teacher in Lakeland, FL and a newlywed, suggests that one seeks God to find out who “the one” is for them. Cogswell had written a list of things she wanted in a man, but God told her to seek more of Him so that is what she did.
Cogswell said, “after I began to seek God more about my future husband, he led me to Psalm 45 and also showed me other characteristics that my husband would have. I figured that if God created me and knows every detail in His plan for me, He also knew who my husband would be,” said Sarah.
There are two books that are highly recommended to women about themselves and their love story by these newlyweds: Captivating by John and Stasi Eldredge and When God Writes Your Love Story by Eric and Lesley Ludi.
Knowing if he is “the one” is a complex thing to explain, but if he is “the one” it should not be complicated at all. You should just know.